Everything about have talk when to dating exclusive love
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There's much more to dating than simply meeting, greeting and intimacy. If you thought that approaching her, asking for her phone number, going on your first date, wondering about that first kiss goodnight, calling her after the date, and asking her out for another was nerve-wracking, you haven't seen anything yet.
Take a seat, watch the curtains go up, and you'll see an example of the steps involved in going from dating to becoming exclusive.
the exclusivity saga
PrologueYou and Tanya have been going out for one month now. You're extremely compatible, get along great and always have a good time together. You think you know a lot about her, yet there's still so much to know — like her dating history.
Scene 1You get home from work and check your machine for messages. "You have one new message." It's Tanya and she sounds really excited. You call her and she tells you that she had an excellent day at work — her boss was really impressed with her and she got promoted. She had great news and you were the one she called.
Scene 2It's the weekend and you're not sure what you're doing, but you know you want it to include Tanya. It's her best friend's birthday, and Tanya wants you to accompany her to the dinner party. You're happy to go. You meet her friends and they like you — score for you. Hey, one of them is pretty good-looking, but that's not important anymore.
Scene 3Tanya tells you that she had an ex boyfriend, Jon, who she broke up on bad terms with. But now she says that he's calling her again. You're worried.
Scene 4Neither you nor Tanya brings up Jon, but it's still lingering in your mind. Still, the two of you go out to a movie and for drinks, before going back to her place, where you end up spending the night. The next day, the two of you cuddle and stay in bed, talking. You talk on the phone later that day, and the only reason there's still awkwardness is because you can't stop thinking about the fact that her ex is calling her.
Scene 5Tanya needs to go shopping for a new pair of eyeglasses, and you offer to go with her. That night, you go out for dinner and then hang out at your apartment to watch a movie.
Scene 6Another Saturday night, another night you know you'll be spending with Tanya. You decide to go out salsa dancing, and plan to go for brunch the next morning. When you come back to her place after a night of hot and spicy latin dancing, you hear a message that Jon had left on her machine. She erases it, but you can't stop wondering what's going on with her and Jon. You ask her what she tells her friends about the two of you, to which she responds, "What do you tell your friends?"
Scene 7What do you tell your friends? You tell them that you like everything about Tanya: you enjoy the time you spend together, you like the way she laughs at your jokes, you like the way you can make her laugh, you enjoy the conversation the two of you have, you even like the face she makes when you screw up your salsa moves.
You tell your friends that you aren't seeing anybody else, and she tells her friends the same. And what about Jon? Well, she tells him that she's seeing someone. You take a bow and receive a standing ovation: you are now an exclusive couple.
What is she thinking, and how do you go about being her one and only?